Saying I’m Sorry
Saying I'm Sorry
Saying I’m Sorry
Well, we’re back from a wonderful vacation in the Northeast. We were visiting family, and I have to admit, I was a bit nervous, as they have not spent a whole lot of time around Evan. Our immediate family has gotten used to his behavior and have learned to cope with it, but it can be a lot for someone who has never been around him to handle. I must have apologized fifty times for different things, and that was only the first afternoon. I finally relaxed and realized, it is what it is, and all I can do is all I can do.
But it did get me thinking about apologies in general. If you’ve ever tried to give an apology, chances are, you’ve used these two simple words, “I’m sorry”. If you’ve ever tried to accept an apology, I’m willing to bet that sometimes these two simple words just don’t cut it.
So often, apologies seem forced and insincere. A few years ago, I watched the Randy Pausch interview with Oprah Winfrey. Randy Pausch was the guy who gave The Last Lecuture at Carnegie Melon University after being diagnosed with Pancriatic Cancer. He passed away in July of 2008.
Randy spoke of living your childhood dreams. It’s a fantastic short video, and I’d highly recommend it.
In the video, Randy explained that one of the things we need to learn to do is apologize correctly. A true apology, he explains, has three parts:
- I’m Sorry
- I was wrong
- What can I do to make it right
When you think about the apologies you’ve gotten and given, do they contain these three elements? It seems pretty simple, but I have found it is a great formula to demonstrate you are really taking ownership of your mistake. It’s a powerful tool in helping build relationships.
We ended up having a fantastic time on vacation. We went to the beach, the zoo, ate lobster, saw fireworks, and ate way too much. Evan did amazingly well, and we are declaring our family vacation of 2012 a success. Check out pictures of our vacation on Facebook!
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Realistic optimism is a mindset that combines a positive outlook with a grounded understanding of reality. It involves maintaining hope and confidence while acknowledging and accepting the challenges and uncertainties of life.
Rather than denying or minimizing difficulties, approach situations with resilience, flexibility, and a belief in your ability to navigate obstacles effectively. You’ve got this. #mindfulmonday
We’ve all had those days where everything seems to go wrong. You wake up late, your coffee spills and your car won’t start. It’s easy to let a lousy morning spiral out of control and ruin your entire day.
Wherever we direct our attention becomes our reality. In other words, we find what we look for. Here are 3 things you can do to create a bad moment boundary:
1️⃣ Accept It: The sooner you can give it a quick “It is what it is” label, the better.
2️⃣ Put It in a Box: You can revisit the box later, but for now, the box holds this experience, and you don’t need to carry it.
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There was a large space between your paragraphs, immediately after you said it’s a fantastic video and I highly recommend it, and then the next paragraph. Was there supposed to be a link to the video? If there was supposed to be a link could you send the link again?
Glad you guys had a great vacation did all of you laugh at each other’s accents? When I was in elementary school we moved from Dayton, Ohio to Long Beach, CA. I was kidded about my Yankee accent. Then as an adult I moved to TX. everyone kept telling me to slow down, I talked too fast. It’s really cool that we sound so different just going from one area of the country to another.
Hi Lesa,
Sorry about that! I haven’t had anyone else mention it;, but I’ll definitely check into it. And yes, we completely laughed at everyone’s accent, although my husband and I are both originally from New Jersey, so we used to have one too 🙂 To view the video, try this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoSRKoU6GQ