Did You See The Bear?
Did You See The Bear?
Do you remember the video of players passing a basketball to each other, asking you to count the number of passes?
If not, watch this before you keep reading:
Did you see the moonwalking bear?
If not, you’re in good company. Unless you knew what you were looking for, almost half of the people who watched that video didn’t see it.
When you know there is a moonwalking bear, it’s impossible not to see it. Psychologists refer to this as “inattentional blindness”, missing obvious things right in front of us if we’re not looking for them.
On the flip side, when you look for something specific, you see it all of the time. Time to buy a new car? When you decide on the make and model you want, you’ll start to see that car everywhere.
Between our brain’s negativity bias, our propensity to magnify the negative and minimize the positive, and inattentional blindness, we are missing a huge percentage of the positive moments and experiences in our lives. Throw in 24 hour news coverage and social media, and you have a recipe for cynicism, frustration, and anxiety.
Fortunately, you have a superpower that can change the way you see the world. Experience-dependent neuroplasticity is your brain’s ability to change based on your experiences. Our brain is continually growing and changing well into our nineties.
Getting better at looking for, savoring, and sharing good experiences inclines your mind in that direction. Research has found that keeping a gratitude journal or thinking of 3 good things that happened each day forces you to scan for the positives.Those that did this repeatedly for a week were happier, more grateful, and had higher levels of optimism than those that didn’t, even after they stopped the exercise.
This doesn’t mean you wear rose colored glasses and pretend like the negatives aren’t out there, but you can wear gratitude glasses and find the good within it.
Just like you probably have a “to-do” list, make a list of the good things about your job, your relationships, and your life. I have a sign on my bathroom mirror that says, “What will you look for today?” as a reminder to look for the good things in life.
When you make it your intention to find kindness, compassion, humor, and goodness, you are way more likely to find it.
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The holidays can test our ability to cope with stress and maintain balance, making it the perfect time to practice. Breathe. It’s all going to work out. 🌬️
The holidays can test our ability to cope with stress and maintain balance, making it the perfect time to practice. Breathe. It’s all going to work out. 🌬️
The holiday season is upon us! It is a time of year to connect with the people you love, celebrate the year’s accomplishments, and maybe pick up a gift or two for the special people in your life. 🎁
If you are trying to figure out what to get that special someone, I’ve got your back. The perfect gift isn’t about price tags or flashy packaging; it’s about thoughtfulness.
And don’t forget to spread a little holiday cheer your way. Giving to yourself is also important - a new journal, a cozy blanket, or even just a day off can recharge your energy and refill your emotional tank. You cannot give what you do not have.
This season, let’s embrace giving and receiving as acts of connection, kindness, and care - for the people we love and ourselves. Check out this month’s blog for a few of my favorite gift ideas! Link is in my bio!!
The holiday season is upon us! It is a time of year to connect with the people you love, celebrate the year’s accomplishments, and maybe pick up a gift or two for the special people in your life. 🎁
If you are trying to figure out what to get that special someone, I’ve got your back. The perfect gift isn’t about price tags or flashy packaging; it’s about thoughtfulness.
And don’t forget to spread a little holiday cheer your way. Giving to yourself is also important - a new journal, a cozy blanket, or even just a day off can recharge your energy and refill your emotional tank. You cannot give what you do not have.
This season, let’s embrace giving and receiving as acts of connection, kindness, and care - for the people we love and ourselves. Check out this month’s blog for a few of my favorite gift ideas! Link is in my bio!!
It’s your last month of 2024! What one small change in your routine could boost your well-being this month? 💪
Here are a few ideas:
-Practice gratitude while brushing your teeth
-Start a multi-vitamin
-Take the stairs or park further away
-Take deep breaths while you wait in line
-Leave your phone in the other room at dinner or in conversations with friends and family
Other ideas? Leave them in the comments below! #mindfulmonday #resilience #reset #newyear #giftofresilience
It’s your last month of 2024! What one small change in your routine could boost your well-being this month? 💪
Here are a few ideas:
-Practice gratitude while brushing your teeth
-Start a multi-vitamin
-Take the stairs or park further away
-Take deep breaths while you wait in line
-Leave your phone in the other room at dinner or in conversations with friends and family
Other ideas? Leave them in the comments below! #mindfulmonday #resilience #reset #newyear #giftofresilience
Thanksgiving is almost here.
It’s a time to gather with friends, family, and loved ones, even those who are a little bit “extra”.
We all have that one friend or family member who’s a little annoying. Maybe they give unsolicited advice on your love life or insist that they know “the right way” to load the dishwasher.
Yet, for many, you are about to be joined by them for a gathering to celebrate a holiday where we focus on gratitude. How can you channel your inner gratitude when they’re testing your Zen? 🧘♀️
🙏 Thank them for the practice. 🙏
That’s right, you are getting free resilience therapy, which is a great opportunity to practice dealing with challenging behavior.
🙏 Focus on their “gifts”. 🙏
Is Aunt Linda a little too good at karaoke night? Thank her for giving you stories that can light up any dull conversation. Everyone has unique gifts. When you are focused on them, it’s easier to let go of judgment and frustration.
🙏 They’re teaching you boundaries. 🙏
“I love you, and I prefer not to talk about my career plans right now.” “I appreciate your input, and I’ll consider it. Want some pie?.” Thank them for all the valuable boundary-setting practice, and then change the subject to their favorite topic.
I’m grateful for you. Tag someone you’re grateful for!
Thanksgiving is almost here.
It’s a time to gather with friends, family, and loved ones, even those who are a little bit “extra”.
We all have that one friend or family member who’s a little annoying. Maybe they give unsolicited advice on your love life or insist that they know “the right way” to load the dishwasher.
Yet, for many, you are about to be joined by them for a gathering to celebrate a holiday where we focus on gratitude. How can you channel your inner gratitude when they’re testing your Zen? 🧘♀️
🙏 Thank them for the practice. 🙏
That’s right, you are getting free resilience therapy, which is a great opportunity to practice dealing with challenging behavior.
🙏 Focus on their “gifts”. 🙏
Is Aunt Linda a little too good at karaoke night? Thank her for giving you stories that can light up any dull conversation. Everyone has unique gifts. When you are focused on them, it’s easier to let go of judgment and frustration.
🙏 They’re teaching you boundaries. 🙏
“I love you, and I prefer not to talk about my career plans right now.” “I appreciate your input, and I’ll consider it. Want some pie?.” Thank them for all the valuable boundary-setting practice, and then change the subject to their favorite topic.
I’m grateful for you. Tag someone you’re grateful for!
Want to change your life for the better? Embrace gratitude. 🙏 Before you get out of bed in the morning and before you go to bed at night, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Here’s how:
1. Specific - The more specific you can be, the better.
2. Savor - Internalize the good feeling for 15-20 seconds.
3. Share - Tell someone what you are grateful for and why.
You’ll improve your mindset, motivation, and mental health. #mindfulmonday #gratitude #mindfulness #thankful #resilience
Want to change your life for the better? Embrace gratitude. 🙏 Before you get out of bed in the morning and before you go to bed at night, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Here’s how:
1. Specific - The more specific you can be, the better.
2. Savor - Internalize the good feeling for 15-20 seconds.
3. Share - Tell someone what you are grateful for and why.
You’ll improve your mindset, motivation, and mental health. #mindfulmonday #gratitude #mindfulness #thankful #resilience
Fri-yay! 🩷
Fri-yay! 🩷
