Saying I’m Sorry
Saying I'm Sorry
Saying I’m Sorry
Well, we’re back from a wonderful vacation in the Northeast. We were visiting family, and I have to admit, I was a bit nervous, as they have not spent a whole lot of time around Evan. Our immediate family has gotten used to his behavior and have learned to cope with it, but it can be a lot for someone who has never been around him to handle. I must have apologized fifty times for different things, and that was only the first afternoon. I finally relaxed and realized, it is what it is, and all I can do is all I can do.
But it did get me thinking about apologies in general. If you’ve ever tried to give an apology, chances are, you’ve used these two simple words, “I’m sorry”. If you’ve ever tried to accept an apology, I’m willing to bet that sometimes these two simple words just don’t cut it.
So often, apologies seem forced and insincere. A few years ago, I watched the Randy Pausch interview with Oprah Winfrey. Randy Pausch was the guy who gave The Last Lecuture at Carnegie Melon University after being diagnosed with Pancriatic Cancer. He passed away in July of 2008.
Randy spoke of living your childhood dreams. It’s a fantastic short video, and I’d highly recommend it.

In the video, Randy explained that one of the things we need to learn to do is apologize correctly. A true apology, he explains, has three parts:
- I’m Sorry
- I was wrong
- What can I do to make it right
When you think about the apologies you’ve gotten and given, do they contain these three elements? It seems pretty simple, but I have found it is a great formula to demonstrate you are really taking ownership of your mistake. It’s a powerful tool in helping build relationships.
We ended up having a fantastic time on vacation. We went to the beach, the zoo, ate lobster, saw fireworks, and ate way too much. Evan did amazingly well, and we are declaring our family vacation of 2012 a success. Check out pictures of our vacation on Facebook!
Today, I turn 5️⃣0️⃣. FIFTY! Like, half a century. I’m not sure how that happened because in my head I’m still 29 (but with better boundaries and worse joints).
As I cross this milestone with a few more laugh lines, a couple of scars, and a stronger appreciation for stretchy pants, here are a few things I’ve learned:
🏃♀️ Chase joy like it’s your job.
Life is loud and hectic, and it will gladly eat up every minute if you let it. Make time for things that make you laugh and bring you joy. Those are the moments that matter.
✨ Prioritize your people.
Your job is important, but it’s not your identity. The people you love are the greatest predictor of your happiness, health, and even how long you stick around. Nurture those relationships like your life depends on it—because it kinda does.
💪 Get uncomfortable.
Comfort zones feel safe but they are cozy little traps. Stay there too long and you start to shrink instead of grow. Try stuff that scares you a little. Be bad at something new. Say yes before you feel ready. Awkward is the price of admission for awesome.
🧠 Your body is not a rental.
It’s the only one you get. After a tumor, back surgery, and a triple fusion neck surgery in the not too distant future, I’ve learned the hard way: do not take your health for granted. Move and be active while you can.
🔌 Don’t waste your energy sweating the small stuff.
Because the big stuff will hit the fan—and that’s when you’ll need your mental and emotional strength. The rest will work itself out (or at least give you a funny story to tell later).
Thanks for being in my life. I appreciate you.
Here’s to another 50 years of grit, grace, and mildly inappropriate humor. 🎉

Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.
Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 3 books. Her newest, Mind Over Moment: Harness the Power of Resilience, is available on Amazon now.
There was a large space between your paragraphs, immediately after you said it’s a fantastic video and I highly recommend it, and then the next paragraph. Was there supposed to be a link to the video? If there was supposed to be a link could you send the link again?
Glad you guys had a great vacation did all of you laugh at each other’s accents? When I was in elementary school we moved from Dayton, Ohio to Long Beach, CA. I was kidded about my Yankee accent. Then as an adult I moved to TX. everyone kept telling me to slow down, I talked too fast. It’s really cool that we sound so different just going from one area of the country to another.
Hi Lesa,
Sorry about that! I haven’t had anyone else mention it;, but I’ll definitely check into it. And yes, we completely laughed at everyone’s accent, although my husband and I are both originally from New Jersey, so we used to have one too 🙂 To view the video, try this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoSRKoU6GQ