Stop Waiting For January!
Stop Waiting For January!
Stop Waiting For January
Have you ever said, “Starting in January, I will…”? In December, a lot of people throw in the towel for the year. They wait until January rolls around to find that renewed sense of purpose and focus, only to have it dwindle as the year goes on. Priorities shift, circumstances change, and life always seems to somehow get in the way.
Next year, I’ll go back to school.
Next month, I’ll start going to the gym.
Next week, I’ll focus on growing my business.
Tomorrow, I’ll start prioritizing my mental health.
The excuses go on and on. But let me ask you this…
If you can’t do it today, what hope do you have on January 1st?
You don’t have to wait until New Year’s Day to get clear on goals, priorities, and habits that will set you up for success.
I know this time of year can be a time of anxiety, stress, and a general feeling of overwhelm in the midst of the nostalgia, joy, and peace. On top of that, this time of year tends to be more difficult for those suffering from anxiety, depression, ADHD, mood disorders, and any other mental health issue. We still can’t get an accurate reason why, but this time of year is always tremendously hard with Evan. It then ripples and creates disruption for the rest of the family.
But, life will give you what you accept. It’s a choice! And it’s one only you can make.
Shift your mindset with these 5 strategies to finish the year strong! 💪🏻
START TODAY!
#1 – Keep the Holidays “Happy”
The word “happy” can set the expectation that everything is supposed to be perfect. Well, guess what? Expectations are the death of happiness. When we are angry, frustrated, or disappointed, it’s usually because our expectations and reality are out of alignment. Just remember, you are doing a kick-ass job. Take time to pat yourself and others on the back for all of the things that have been accomplished.
Focus on the delicious moments, celebrate what’s most important, and be kind to yourself. If we use perfection as our litmus test for happiness, we end up missing the boat. Make progress your target for success instead.
#2 – Presence > Presents
We spend at least fifty percent of our waking time mind-wandering and not focused on the present moment. When our mind wanders, we lose touch with the present and go into endless thought loops about the past or future. While doing his PhD research at Harvard, Matt Killingsworth invented an iPhone app called Track Your Happiness that captures feelings in real time. He collected over 650,000 real-time reports from more than 15,000 people. He found that people are substantially less happy when their minds are wandering than when they’re not. In fact, as it turns out, people are less happy when they’re mind-wandering no matter what they’re doing.
You can get in to more of the data from the study by watching his TED Talk. Being present with others doesn’t just mean time spent. It means being intentional and deliberate about your actions; bringing your full self to the interaction. Remember the reason for the season and cherish your loved ones.
#3 – Define Success and Work Backwards
Pretend you could wave a magic wand. When you go back to work after the holidays – after the family visits, parties, and a few too many cookies – how would you like to see things at work and at home? Work backwards from there. It’s easy to get busy being busy. The question “What do I want my life to look like?” is enormous and scary. But let’s face it, we’re choosing our direction every day, every hour.
All too often, we land somewhere, draw a bull’s eye around ourselves, and declare it a victory rather than deliberately taking time to identify where we want to end up and creating a clear path to get there.
#4 – Create a system of accountability
Accountability simply means ownership. If you own something, you authorize yourself to take control of it, and immediately change from being a victim to being in the driver’s seat. Many people say “But I can’t make that change because…” Inaction is still a choice.
It’s not: I can’t work out because I’m already working 18 hour a day.
It’s: I choose to not make working out a priority.
Do you take ownership of relationships, projects, problems, and solutions? Do you own the choices you make each day? Set deadlines, enlist support, gather needed resources, but whatever you do, always keep your promises to yourself.
#5 – Allow Yourself to Hit Reset
For over 6 years, we had an in-home caregiver to help with our son, Evan, and he had such a calming presence. After an episode or a difficult interaction, Michael would literally send us to opposite ends of the house and tell us all to reset. To start fresh. He reminded us to focus on what’s really important – our family, our love, our health, future, and our priorities.
A reset is about perspective. How we choose to interpret a situation dictates our response and our brain chemistry matches it. There are family dynamics that cause anxiety, rushing around to finish last minute tasks at work and home, kids out of school that need to be entertained, and financial pressure. Throw in a healthy dose of self-judgment for any goals or resolutions where you might have fallen short, and then we beat ourselves up. You’re human. Take it one day at a time and be proud of yourself when you succeed at achieving clarity amidst chaos. You can choose to reset at any time.
The more peaceful you feel, the easier it will be for those around you to step into their happy place, too. Focus on what’s most important first, and the rest will fall into place. It’s a gift that the whole family will appreciate. We appreciate you and want to sincerely thank you for being part of the Anne Grady Group community. Stay tuned to see all of the exciting things we are rolling out in 2020!
From our family to yours, wishing you a mindful, grateful, and peaceful holiday season.
-Anne
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I had an incredible time chatting with @dr.cindyspeaks on Positively Altered about one of my favorite topics >> resilience!
💪 We covered everything from how stress affects the brain to actionable strategies for resetting your resilience and reclaiming balance. Plus… we even talked donkeys!
🎧 Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-23-the-resilience-reset-transforming-stress/id1773804535?i=1000699134975
In this episode, we dive into:
🧠 How to train your brain for resilience
😩 The power of sitting in the “suck”
💡 Simple strategies to reset stress and find balance
If you’re ready to transform stress into strength, this one’s for you!
What is on your to-do list for the week? ✅
I’m sure it includes meetings, tasks, personal chores, and follow-ups, but does it include things that bring you joy?
Instead of waiting for happiness, create it.. You can even focus on enjoyable things while doing the have-to do things.
Slogging through paperwork? Light a candle and listen to your favorite tunes.
Going for a drive? Listen to a stand-up comic or a great book.
Don’t neglect what brings you joy and happiness—make it a ritual and part of your resilience-building routine.
You know that heart-stopping moment when you try to change lanes, only to realize that someone is in your blind spot?
Blind spots aren’t just for driving. In life and leadership, we all have blind spots—things others see clearly that we don’t.
The tricky part? Blind spots aren’t always glaring flaws. Often, they’re our good intentions getting lost in translation. So, how do you uncover them?
Here’s a simple twist that will make a big difference: Ask for advice instead of feedback. 🗣
This slight shift makes people more likely to offer constructive, actionable insights—without triggering defensiveness. Plus, it builds trust and strengthens relationships.
Rather than trying to make drastic changes, pick one behavior and integrate it into your day.
Want to start a gratitude practice? Do it while you brush your teeth. Want to take deep breaths? Practice while you make coffee. Adding a new habit to an existing one makes it easier to stick with it.
#mindfulmonday #habitstacking #atomichabits #jamesclear
Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.
Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 52 Strategies for Life, Love & Work and Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph.